Tuesday, July 25, 2006
DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question.
She said,"How do I know if I married the right person?"
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It
depends. Is that your husband?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's
weighing on your mind. Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with
your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked
their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a
completely natural and spontaneous experience.
You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in
love... Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the
imagery of that _expression. It implies that you were just standing
there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But
after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the
natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls
become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when
it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute,
drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you
think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between
the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry
subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry
the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of
the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with
someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their
spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for
fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is
the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a
friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this
dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not
saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a
few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S
LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER
just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it
day in and day out. That's why we have the _expression "the labor of
love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly,
it takes WISDOM.
You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific
things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your
marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there
are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise
program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your
relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and
effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...
you can "make" love.
Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling.
Thursday, July 13, 2006
Mr Bean Staring At you
Just want to share with all my bloggerina this pic tat was on the graffti walls of the new youth park(Near Sommerset Mrt/Opp Singtel Comcentre).
Talented guys i must say coz they never failed to update the walls weekly with their creativity. Everyday walk thru & fro from werk i never failed to admire their colourful works. Not all the works on the wall is just trash which some of my colleagues commented, they are the ones who are blind and failed to appreciate the beauty of art in all sort of forms,colours etc.
Well i will capture the moments of their arts & update any intresting graffti on my blog...Stay tuned for more pics.
Sunday, July 09, 2006
THE TAG (BY Ogy backdated on June 26 06) hehe
She sms me to inform me that I'm being tagged! Athough its backdated.;0
[*]10 Favourites
Favorite Color: Pink & Purple
Favorite Food: Pasta
Favorite Song: Bcoz of You by Kelly Clarksons
Favorite Movie: Never been Kissed
Favorite Sport: huh....cycling
Favorite Season: raining season:)
Favourite Day Of the Week: Friday
Favorite Ice Cream Flavor: Choclata
[*]9 Current
Current Mood: Excited
Current Taste: Mooo Ice Cream frm Walls
Current Clothes: Top & toga pants
Current Desktop: My sis 2 lil tykes
Current Toenail Color: Nude
Current Time: 1359hrs
Current Surroundings: Home Sweet Home
Current Annoyance(s): Tings at werk
Current Thought: When to get another new job
[*]8 Firsts
First Best Friend: Siti Norma
First Crush: Hairul
First Movie: well i can realli remember..maybe ET kott?
First Piercing: When i was a baby...ouch i had piercing on both ears
Frst Lie: When i am in Pri 4 I told my mum lost my money during recess, fact is i bgt stickers at the sch bookshop
First Music: Twinkle Twinkle LiL Stars
First Car: My legs..hehe
[*]7 Lasts
Last Drink: Coke Lime
Last Car Ride: Yesterday
Last Crush: currently none
Last Movie Seen: I can't remember. maybe its the family stone
Last Phone Call: W
Last CD Played: Rossa
[*]6 Have You Evers
Have You Ever Dated One Of Your Best Friends: Abs Never
Have You Ever Broken the Law: Nupe
Have You Ever Been Arrested: Nupe
Have You Ever Skinny Dipped: Nupe
Have You Ever Been on TV: yes 5yrs bck
Have You Ever Kissed Someone You Didn't Know: Hmm... maybe
[*]5 things you're wearing
Clothes
My specs
My white gold braclet gift frm momsie
hair clip
undergarments..LOLX
[*]4 things you've done today
Do 3 bracelets(order for 2moro)
Buy breakfast
Clear my mails
Update My Blog
[*]3 things you can hear right now
Music ( listening to my bro itunes on pc)
My mum ramblings
Kids shouting from below my 4th sty flat
[*]2 things you can't live without
My dearest ones : mum
My close buddies : fedah,ju,al,siti
[*]1 thing you do when you're bored
Surf the net
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THE BAG TAG
I been tagged again by Ogy on so i mite as well do it one shot...
(1) My Wet Tissue
(2) Beige Mng Purse
(3) My Moto Hp
(4) House Key
(5) A packet of sweets
(6) A packet of tissue
(7) My Notebook to jott orders for my necklace
(8) My Makeup bag
(9) Employee Pass
(10) Small bags of Apple chips..
So i would like to randomly select these 4 peeps to continue "THE BAG TAG" :)
Aniyah
Nadya
Floating Lilac
Rieta
Sunday, July 02, 2006
Even when life get too much for me these few days, i try to hang on..Few incidents that happen recently make me sad and angry. But thankfully i managed to put that aside and channel my energy & focus to my beading. Alhamdulilah i managed to make 3 more necklace, well in the pink power mood.
And for K...ehkkk bukan Datuk K hokay, i dun need you to come and disturb my peace again plueassse.
